You are the one who makes sure everything has its license. You are the one who is thinking about summer camp registration in April. You make all the appointments… dentists, doctors, mammograms, Algebra tutoring.
Mismatched sexual desires can use can have a greater impact on a relationship than you might think. Relationships change over the years. If you're one of the many couples who find themselves having a lot less sex than they did when they started dating, you're not alone.
Every relationship can go through dry spells when your partner is suddenly less interested in sex than you. It may a short-term problem related to stress at work or other issues that have driven your partner to distraction. Even more commonly, a sudden, hectic schedule—ranging from end-of-year exams to a do-or-die work deadline—can leave your partner exhausted and uninterested in anything more than sleep or a night in front of the TV.
Let's be real: At a certain point in many relationships, the daily sex drops off. So are you having enough sex in your long-term relationship? That depends, says Laurie Watsona licensed couple's therapist and certified sex therapist and author of Wanting Sex Again.
If you're like every parent of a small child I know, you find it pretty difficult to set aside couple's time with your spouse. And then you have this niggling fear in the back of your brain that you will grow apart, become distant and when the kids go to college, you will blow this popsicle stand. Well, that fear is well founded, since 41 percent of first marriages end in divorce.
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This can be simply down to the fact that sexual interest tends to ebb and flow over time. It can also be related to specific issues in the relationship or external pressures from outside it. Anxieties surrounding sex can also come from different expectations about how much sex you think you should be having.